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No not my screen name... fablespinner is more permanent than my REAL NAME! LOL

That is what is changing however!

I have finally gotten off my fat lazy ass and schlepped my carcass down to YE OLDE DMV, The Superior court House and SSN is pending....
Tomorrow is the BANK and the Credit Cards and Loans...
GUH, this is the LAST TIME I DO THIS. Even if (By some remote chance I ever go crazy in the head and marry again... I am KEEPING MY MAIDEN NAME!)

So everyone, update your address books and Cross out "Sanders" I have shed it like a bad boil being lanced off my BUTT!

I have gone back to my Maiden Name: Dana J. BISTROW

So if you send anything to me, that's the name to use now peeps!


(And I tell ya, when you do a Google search of my last name, my second cousin Van Bistrow DOMINATES Google. (Yes, Vangel Bistrow was my Great Uncle and he is named after his father... the same name I used in Following Tides.)

I am intelligent and he makes me feel like an absolute RETARD. You'll find 800 thesis reports on Quantum Physics; he's the Director of Physics at the University of Chicago.... Guh, brainiac.

He was also one hell of a Cellist too with the Univ. of Chicago Symphony.
His wife was a violinist and both their children are the same. I just found Doug on MySpace and he's an alternative Bass player now.

The internet sure does make the world seem small!

But I am off topic... OMG what a hellish day, you'd think it would be fairly Easy to RETURN to a name you were born with after a divorce....


I walk into Social Security office first this morning with what I thought were ALL my divorce papers (All the Lawyer sent me 5 years ago at least), a copy of my Birth Certificate and a jaunty little step...

I get up to the window and find out
#1.) For females you have to PETITION THE COURT to return to your MAIDEN NAME. You only have to show a marriage certificate to change it after marriage, but to go back to your ORIGINAL NAME, you have to fucking beg the court! NEWS TO ME!
#2.) I do not have my FINAL divorce decree, only all the other paperwork leading up to that last piece of paper... FUCK
#3.) She didn't care I had my BIRTH CERT, no good without a petition...
#4.) Call my lawyer; he does not have my paperwork anymore so I have to go get it from the court...

So I am no longer in a good mood and Drive straight to the Superior Courthouse... spend 45 minutes just trying to find a place to PARK
Go up to the Clerks office and the nice man at the window says... Go have them pull your case file and get a copy of the divorce decree, if your lawyer checked the "Return Name" box you're fine and you can take that to SSN, if not, here is the simple one page petition form... Fill that out and bring it back to the window...

I take the form and go have my files pulled, sure as shit, my lawyer did NOT request the court to return my maiden name... FUCK
SO I get a copy of the final divorce decree ANYWAY just for my records $5.00 for 2 pieces of photocopied paper...

I fill out the form and take it back to the window... "Oh, I should have told you, we need three copies. You can go down to the Library in the BASEMENT and make 2 photocopies....

Me: There is a photocopier BEHIND YOU!

Clerk: Not for public use

Me: I just paid $5.00 for a PHOTOCOPY of MY DIVORCE PAPERS that she COPIED on that machine...

Clerk: Shrugs...

Me: FUCK! So I go down to the basement, pay another $2.00 to get 2 freaking copies and go back upstairs... I go to the window and hand another clerk my Petition for Name change.

New Clerk: "Okay, we need a Self addressed Stamped envelope to mail this back to you after we give this to the judge to sign...."

Me: What? You can't fork over $.39 cents to mail it to me?

New Clerk: "You can go to the basement and buy an envelope and stamp"

Me: I WAS JUST IN THE BASEMENT, You could have given me ALL THE FUCKING DIRECTIONS AND REQUIREMENTS the first time I was at the window. Actually my exact words were... "My, that little gem of wisdom should be imparted at the same time you send us down to hell to make COPIES!"

New Clerk: ..... If you don't want and SASE you can come and pick it up out of the box

Me: I look over and see a huge box full of documents ANY ONE FROM THE PUBLIC can PICK THROUGH.... NO FREAKING WAY... back to the basement I go and pay, get this.... $3.00 for a fucking PLAIN WHITE ENVELOPE Ya know the kind you can buy at the drug store for $2.00 for 100 and a fucking .39 cent STAMP I AM RAPED AGAIN BY UNCLE SAM

I am no longer in a mood that can come even close to amiable... I go BACK up to the third floor clerks office thrust my SELF ADDRESSED STAMPED ENVELOPE AT HER and am then informed it can take up to SIX FUCKING WEEKS!

So I fucking leave fuming, There is no way to change my Social Security Number without that fucking petition... but I say WHAT THE HELL, the day cannot get any worse and I've spent 4 hours now doing this BULLSHIT so I stop at the DMV on the way home.

That was easy, it cost me ANOTHER $21.00 but all I had to show them was my divorce paperwork and they up and changed it, took a new picture and sent me on my not-so-merry way. That was only about 20 minutes too, in and out.

Tomorrow is the bank and my credit cards and then when I get my petition back I can do Social Security and my JOB W2.

Ladies, don't ever give up your name, it's a PAIN IN THE ASS TO CHANGE!

That was my lovely vacation day today.


( 12 comments — Leave a comment )
Mar. 15th, 2007 09:41 am (UTC)
*hugs and squishes* Oh, what a nightmare! You poor dear! I've always hated the name change thing... and I kept my own name when I got married two years ago. I didn't want to have to change it in the first place. My husband's last name is one of these Northern European monstrosities that one always has to spell for others. We're not having kids, so I really had no reason to change it anyway.

I'm sure the headache of reclaiming your name will be worth it, hon. It's a nuisance now, but it'll get taken care of soon and it'll be behind you! Concentrate on that and soon the ordeal will be all over!

Mar. 15th, 2007 10:05 am (UTC)
No wonder Social Security is so messed up! I hope you treat yourself to something nice after all the hassle you had to go through. *huggles*
Mar. 15th, 2007 10:56 am (UTC)
I'm so happy for you!
Mar. 15th, 2007 12:18 pm (UTC)
I agree with Sharona, I say you deserve to spoil yourself some after this BS.

Guh, all the crap our own government makes us go through just to do something as simple as change our last names, change our first names, get an address change, get a new drivers license, get your birth certificate, etc. It gets more and more frustrating each and every single damn year ( joy, my friend / co-worker gets to go through it tomorrow when she FINALLY goes for her learners permit, and I get to be there with her as the 'need a person whom has been driving for over 10 years there with you'.

Guh... blech...

Mar. 15th, 2007 12:57 pm (UTC)
Congratulations on finally getting your name changed on all the legal papers! Would like to pinch your lawyer where it hurts, for not requesting the return of your name, though. At the rates they charge, you'd think they would at least *listen* to your instructions, yeah?

Oh, and I so feel for you with the governmental insanity. Our bureaucracy in the Philippines drives citizens nuts and makes "fixers" (aka the folks who'll take care of everything - for a *small* fee, ha!) extremely happy!
Mar. 15th, 2007 03:48 pm (UTC)
That is such a lovely and AWESOME last name you have. <3 Dana Bistrow- I love it!
Mar. 15th, 2007 04:53 pm (UTC)
What a load of bullshit. :P And here it's supposed to be fairly easy to change your name to like, Obi-Wan Kenobi or something. That's ridiculous that they sent you down to hell so many times, if also completely typical.
Mar. 15th, 2007 04:53 pm (UTC)
Oh, and good on you, when it's all done, congrats. :)
Mar. 15th, 2007 06:12 pm (UTC)
I'm hyphenating mine to Lewis-Melot. I don't see why I should totally give up my name. :)
Mar. 15th, 2007 10:10 pm (UTC)
Oye! That's probably the reason why my friend refuses to change her name until she remarries. She refuses to go back to her maiden name because of her brother's decision to kill prostitutes while on parole. I, on the other hand, will never change my last name. I adore my name. It's so very European!
Mar. 16th, 2007 12:02 am (UTC)
Isn't government wonderful? *hugs* I'm sorry to hear your day sucked but at least something good came from it. We should celebrate or something.
Mar. 16th, 2007 04:46 am (UTC)
Gah hearing all that makes me glad that I didn't change my last name when I got married.


And yeah I so love it how the women have to go through all that trouble. If I have a second marriage, he's sooooooooo changing his name. I personally like mine thank you.
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